Discover Your Friendly “Yes” To Money
I could feel my client’s voice BEAMING on the other side of the phone:
“I’ve been thinking about our work together and it’s caused me to explore my yeses and no’s around money.
What instantly comes to mind for me is my ‘unfriendly no’ in regards to money. My unfriendly no doesn’t give me any choices. My unfriendly no says ‘no’ to creating a spending plan – or a budget. My unfriendly no says that a spending plan will strangle me – that sticking to a spending plan means I’ll have to deprive myself for the rest of my life and say ‘no, no, no, no’ to everything.
The Unfriendly and Resentful “No”
My unfriendly no makes me feel deprived, angry and resentful. It falsely leads me to believe that I must resign myself to living a life of lack, that I can’t ever do anything fun. My unfriendly no is controlling and tells me that my life is going to be filled with misery and I’ll never have enough money. And because life is destined to be so miserable, and this is as good as it gets, why not splurge and live it up a little and have some fun?
My unfriendly no is a very intimate friend to my ‘unfriendly yes’ that says ‘yes’ to everything. I do this because I feel so bad that I’ve said ‘no’ and denied myself for the past several days (or hours) to myself or to my children.”
At this point Nancy paused, took a deep breath, and then went on to excitedly share:
The Supportive and Friendly “Yes”
“I’m experiencing a huge breakthrough around what a friendly yes is like. My friendly yes says that working a spending plan can create freedom for me. My friendly yes reassures me that a spending plan doesn’t have to be difficult and painful. It lets me know that it’s okay to buy clothes and necessities for my children and me. My friendly yes says ‘yes’ to life, and ‘yes’ to the unlimited possibilities of what I want to create, be and do. It gives me freedom! And my friendly yes also has a close friend as well. It is a close friend to my friendly no.
My friendly no is filled with choice, compassion and understanding. It says, ‘Let’s say no to this, but let’s say yes to these other things.’ My friendly no empowers me with the opportunity to make wise money choices so that I can experience true freedom. A friendly no can gently guide me and provide me with hope and security.
What I now realize is that I can choose to use my friendly yes and no in each moment. My friendly yes and friendly no support me in saying ‘yes’ to life. They are here to guide me to true freedom and the truest enjoyment of my money!”
* Names have been changed in this story
Your 1-Minute Action Step
Write down your responses to the following questions:
- What are the images and thoughts that come up for you when you think of saying “no” in regards to money or financial decisions?
- What are the images and thoughts that come up for you when you think of saying “yes” in regards to money or financial decisions?
- What are the internal conversations that come up around your unfriendly yes and unfriendly no?
- What are the internal conversations that come up around your friendly yes and friendly no?
- How might you become more empowered around managing money if you respond with your friendly yes and friendly no?
Train yourself to recognize when you respond with your unfriendly yes and no and choose a friendly yes or no instead.
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